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Important Phone Numbers

  • Suicide Hotline for San Diego (available 7/24): (800) 479-3339
  • Suicide Hotline for entire U.S. (available 7/24): (800) 784-2433 or (800) 273-8255
  • Suicide Hotline Website:
  • Friendship Line – for people 60 years and older. A crisis intervention hotline and a warmline for non-emergency emotional support calls: 800-971-0016.

Plan and Prepare


End-of-Life Organizations

Discussion Groups

Strategies for Avoiding Advanced Dementia- Hemlock Meeting Nov. 18, 2018

Medical Futility Blog by Thaddeus Pope

Legal Resources

Books on Dying

For Those Who Haven’t Given Dying Much Thought:

For Those Seeking Specific Solutions:

The Unique Problem of Dementia:

  • O, Let Me Not Get Alzheimer’s Sweet Heaven!: Why many people prefer death or active deliverance to living with dementia (2020) – by Colin Brewer.  A review of dementia and criticism of organized religions that frustrate efforts to bring in legislation in the UK that allows voluntary assisted dying to take place.
  • Choosing to Die, a Personal Story, by Phyllis Shacter. A wife’s view of what it was like to experience Voluntarily Stopping Eating and Drinking (VSED), which her husband chose to end his life after he was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s.
  • Still Alice (2007) – A novel by Lisa Genova, Ph. D.  (Harvard).  This neuroscientist/author  crafts a realistic portrait of  a fictional 50-year old woman diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s.

Early Seminal Works:


  • Cruel Death, Heartless Aftermath: My Family’s End-of-Life Nightmare and How To Avoid It (2019) – by Barbara Mancini. Her father did it all correctly. He made his advance directive, discussed it with family, repeatedly expressed his end-of-life wishes to friends, doctors and hospice, yet in the end he was subjected to medical torture for 5 days. His emergency room nurse daughter was arrested for assisted suicide and spent $100,000 defending herself for an entire year before the case against her was dismissed.
  • That Good Night: Life and Medicine in the Eleventh Hour (2020) – by Sunita Puri. A short review of That Good Night.
  • To Die Well: Your Right to Comfort, Calm, and Choice in the Last Days of Life (2008) – by Sidney Wanzer and Joseph Glenmullen
  • The Last Goodnights: Assisting My Parents with their Suicides (2010) – by John West
  • Last Wish (1998) – by Betty Rollin
  • In Search of Gentle Death The Right for Your Right to Die with Dignity (2012) – by Richard N. Cote
  • Deathing: An Intelligent Alternative for the Final Moments of Life (1989) – by Anya Foos-Graber
  • A Time to Die: The Place for Physician Assistance – by Charles F. McKhann
  • Dignified Dying (2015) – by Boudewijn Chabot, MD, PhD
  • A Hastened Death by Self Denial of Food and Drink (2008) – by Boudewijn Chabot, MD, PhD (unavailable)
  • A Graceful Passage (1990) – by Arnold R. Beiser, MD
  • Jane Brody’s Guide to the Great Beyond: A Practical Primer to Help You and Your Loved Ones Prepare Medically, Legally, and Emotionally for the End of Life (2009) – by Jane Brody
  • The Best Way to Say Goodbye (2007)- by Stan Terman
  • Jean’s Way (1978) – by Derek Humphry
  • Before We Say Goodbye (2009) – by Sean Davison
  • To Die Like a Dog (2002) – by Lesley Martin
  • The Walk to the Paradise Garden (2011) – fiction – by Leon Arden
  • One True Thing (1994) – fiction – by Anna Quindlen
  • Never Say Die (2011) – by Susan Jacoby
  • Death with Dignity (2011) – by Robert Orfali
  • Wrong Medicine, 2nd edition (2011) – by Larry Schneiderman and Nancy Jecker
  • A Good Death (2008) – by Rodney Syme

Movies and DVDs on Hastened Death — most are available at

  • Go Gentle
  • Final Exit
  • A Finished Life
  • Grace Quigley
  • One True Thing
  • The Sea Inside
  • Right of Way
  • Million Dollar Baby
  • You Don’t Know Jack
  • The Barbarian Invasions
  • It’s My Party
  • Steam Roomss
  • How to Die in Oregon
  • Short Stay in Switzerland
  • Soylent Green
  • The Helium Method
  • Eyewitness


  • The FBI and the Bag Lady. This is a play I wrote in 2008 based on the true story of Sharlotte Hydorn. She had been a board member of the Hemlock Society of San Diego and resigned to make high quality Exit Bags. If you don’t know what they are the play explains and also tells the history of what happened to Shar after her encounter with the Feds. You are welcome to download it and perform it. Just mention me in the credits. The woman you cast as Shar is not—a sweet old lady—she is a pleasant, courageous, articulate fighter – not angry but determined. She was tall and liked to wear big hats. I loved and admired her and hope to honor her with this piece. Faye Girsh

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